April 30, 2016


What is bonding?
When experts talk about bonding, they're referring to the intense attachment you develop with your baby. It's the feeling that makes you want to shower him with love and affection, or throw yourself in front of a speeding truck to protect him.
What if I don't bond right away?
Breathe easy. Parent-baby bonding is complicated and often takes time to gel. As long as you take care of your baby's basic needs and cuddle with her regularly, she won't suffer if you don't feel a strong bond at first sight.

While some dads feel bonded to their baby within the first few days – or even minutes – of birth, it may take a little longer for others and that's perfectly normal. After all, a little human has just landed in your lap, you may be helping your partner recover from birth, and you haven't slept for more than a couple hours at a time. Give yourself a break and know that the bond will develop before long.
In the past, researchers thought it was crucial to spend a lot of time with your newborn during his first few days to seal the bond right away. But now we know that bonding can take place over time. Parents who are separated from their babies soon after delivery for medical reasons or who adopt their children when they're several weeks or months old also develop enormously close, loving relationships.
"There's so much discussion about bonding with a new baby that parents often feel guilty if they don't feel some incredible attachment to their new baby immediately,""But bonding is truly an individual experience, and it's just as reasonable to expect the bond to develop over a period of time as it is for it to develop instantaneously."
What are the best ways to bond?
Your baby may be cute and cuddly, but she's also an entirely new person, one you'll have to get to know. A true parent-child bond is a byproduct of everyday caregiving. There's no magic formula, but a few things can help the process along.
    -Have some skin-to-skin cuddle time – hold her and stroke her gently. Human touch is soothing for both you and your baby.
    -Look into your baby's eyes and talk and sing to her regularly.
    -If your baby has to spend some time in intensive care and is hooked up to wires and monitors, ask the hospital staff to help you safely touch and hold your baby.
Over time, you'll get to know and enjoy your newborn, learn how to comfort her, and your feelings will deepen. And one day – maybe the first time you see her smile – you'll look at your baby and realize you're filled completely with love and joy.